Dating in youth groups

24 Sep

Single pastors must consider their dating pool and make a decision that is true to their beliefs.

For me, that meant limiting congregational influence on my dating life.

I’m certain, like me, many have wondered how marriage fits into this already full and exhausting schedule.

In fact, I’ve often pondered if it’s fair to bring someone into my life knowing the nature of my work and the strain it can place on relationships.

To avoid that, I chose to entertain dating relationships with people who were not within the worship community I served and had little ties to it.

To avoid losing some potentially life-long and beneficial friendships, making the decision to date outside the church you serve is an opportunity to limit unnecessary anxiety.

Following an inspiring sermon, congregants lined to greet me after service.

In my experience, when I’ve disclosed my line of work, the person I dated became uncomfortable with the idea of dyeing in relationship with a pastor or used me as a sounding board for theological query.

Yes, I’m a pastor but my conversation extends far beyond faith, theology, and spiritual matters.